Women have a right to go have a night out and not be subject to abuse — physical and mental — from men who think it’s normal, writes Matty Holdsworth.
Women have a right to go have a night out and not be subject to abuse — physical and mental — from men who think it’s normal, writes Matty Holdsworth.

No means no: Just treat women with respect

THE whole “boys will be boys” mentality to get blind drunk and touch up whatever unlucky stranger they stumble upon on a night out needs to end.

It’s not funny, not cool, it’s downright disgusting.

We’ve all witnessed it.

An attractive girl makes her way through a club or pub.

Fellas wink, some ask to buy her a drink, some touch her arm. Others wolf whistle, others simply stare ‘til their eyeballs drop out.

One grabs her bum, and some, as heard in the Maroochydore Magistrates Court on Wednesday, even go a step further.

In this case, 55-year-old man Kerry Andersen thought it was OK to “put a hand up a woman’s skirt and press a finger to her genitalia”.

His excuse “too drunk, can’t remember it”.

I picked up the journalist who covered the case following the court proceedings and I’ve never seen her so rattled.

“Horrifying” were her words.

I wasn’t in the court but I let out a gasp reading the victim impact statements.

Writing this, imaging the scene, really riles me up.

It’s brazen, horrible and cruel for anyone, just trying to have a good night out, to be put through.

I can’t imagine the trauma this poor victim suffers today.

I’d be scarred too much to ever venture out again.

In August, there were 26 reported instances of sexual offences on the Coast.

In the past year there were 320 reported cases.

Shocking numbers that likely hide the true reality. I think it’s most likely double.

From speaking to my colleagues and girlfriends, it’s happened to just about every girl once in their lifetime.

I don’t blame women for not coming forward and reporting it, in your position I don’t know if I would. I’m sorry it happens.

It needs to end.

I’m not even proud to say I’ve never done something of that nature. It’s not something I feel men should be proud of.

I’m guessing the same grubs who think this is OK have the same thoughts regarding rape victim’s skimpy clothing as “them asking for it”.

It’s simple, don’t be a feral.

Have some respect.