South Burnett mums: RSL manager loved being a teenage mum
WHEN Nanango RSL manager Sheena Lindholm first found out she was going to be a teenage mother, she was ecstatic.
"I couldn't wait to be a mum, even at 19,” Ms Lindholm said.
"I couldn't wait to see them grow up, take their first step and see them off to their first day of school.
"I couldn't wait to talk life with them and share the beautiful world around us.”
With three kids under 11 and one on the way, this busy mum has learnt many lessons from her children.
"With my youngest, Kate, 2, I have insight and knowledge to enjoy the privilege. I now look forward to being in the moment and not being so worried about what's next,” she said.
Ms Lindholm said the best part of being a mum was the multitude of emotions she experienced.
"To be exposed to feeling vulnerable, emotional, protective, defensive, proud, tired, organised, unpredictable, sacrificial, hopeful, strong, weak and everything in between,” she said.
"I love that it often catches me off guard, reminds me to be present and pay attention to time on earth and why each human is important.”
But parenting doesn't come without its challenges and Ms Lindholm has to remind herself to communicate life's big picture in a little person's world.
"I have to take a thoughtful moment to remember the picture is much smaller, and therefore the lesson must be much smaller,” she said.
The popular RSL manager is always mindful about the parental advice she passes on to her children.
"I truly believe that you need to be careful what you say as a parent, because you the parent become the voice in the back of your child's mind as they grow,” she said.
But she need not worry, with such a positive mentor in her own mother.
"I am just so thankful that my mum was so supportive in everything I did, no matter what I was trying to achieve in my life,” she said.
"She told me, you can listen to everyone but take only what you need, and when you need it.”
But on some occasions, the best advice Ms Lindholm has received has been more powerful than any spoken words.
"I still look at my mum and have those silent aha moments,” she said.
"I think to myself, 'I now know why you did that'.”
The proud mum said the most rewarding moments were when the kids realised the significance of their own achievements.
"I am really proud when I see them recognise the value of positive contribution to themselves, our family and the world around them,” Ms Lindholm said.